Dreaming About a Mother

By Patti Allen on May 12, 2009

A mother in a dream can mean all sorts of things, none of which may have anything to do with your relationship with your mother. Keywords: mother, mom, dreams, dreamer, dreaming, understanding dreams, analyzing dreams, dream analysis, mom dream, mother dream, inner mother, self-analysisMothers permeate our lives, both in reality and in our dreams. It can be challenging to write about the subject of mothers in dreams without discussing the classic theories of Freud and Jung, among others. In modern dream work, however, where we believe that only the dreamer can say what their dreams mean, the theories of the various schools of thoughts are perhaps best left to academics.

Start by asking yourself these questions:

  • What does the word “mother” mean to you?

  • What is your own mother like?

  • Are you a mother?

Exploring insightful questions that come from within are more likely to get the dreamer to understand the meaning of their reverie than any of the classic theories. It is possible for a mother in a dream to represent the mother the dreamer is, a mother of the dreamer, a mother other than the dreamer’s mother, or it can symbolize an inner mother, a combination of all the aspects of a mother we have experienced and infused into our own attitudes. The inner mother will dictate how we nurture ourselves. Let us review an example of a dream I had to help us determine where to begin our self-analysis.

Here is a dream I had many years ago when I was just starting to explore my life during my training in the Rubenfeld Synergy Method®, which is a dynamic system that focuses on the body and its relationship to feelings and emotions:

I am pregnant and have just given birth to a baby boy. A woman I know is also pregnant, but I think it is for show, because I am having the baby for her, as a surrogate. So I tell her husband that I have had the baby. Before they could take the baby away, the baby is starting to move and communicate in ways incredible for a newborn! Every minute and hour, the baby is doing something new. So, I tell the father that he should come see this. When he looks, he doesn’t see anything out of the ordinary. I tell him that just because he doesn’t see or acknowledge it doesn’t mean that it isn’t so.

First, I explored the significance of being pregnant and a surrogate mother for another woman. What does it mean to be full of life and give that life away to someone else? I explored where the feelings were manifesting in my body. My energy was centred on giving away a precious life and putting my needs last. The end of the dream was equally powerful too. The idea of “. . . just because he doesn’t see or acknowledge it doesn’t mean it isn’t so” was an affirmation of self-trust in my own growth. The dream expressed my belief that changes I wanted to manifest in my life, though currently unseen, were beginning to happen, like the unseen sprout just before it pushes through the ground in spring. Speaking up to the adoptive father was a further confirmation that my intuitive knowing and self-trust. This was a reminder of why it is so important to refrain from making assumptions about each symbol that shows up in our dreams. Once you explore its meaning to you, you may realize that it represents something very different than you originally presumed.

How might you go about understanding your particular dream? Begin by asking yourself what a mother is, and then describe the mother in your dream:

  • What is she like?

  • Is the mother in your dream actually your waking-life mother or a generic mother you do not know?

  • What was she doing in the dream?

  • Was she acting like your mother would act in waking life or doing something out of character?

  • Does this mother remind you of any aspect of yourself?

  • Most importantly, what were your feelings in the dream?

In this simple way, you can start to determine if the dream is giving you information about your own mother, your mothering style, or the symbol of “mother” that is reflected in you. You may also choose to explore other aspects of mothers, like seeing the mother in your dream as a timeless symbol of all women, the Great Mother, a nurturing and creative energy, and as a construct within your psyche. Dreams can prove to be useful tools to gain greater self-understanding, change our course in life, and chart new waters. At minimum, these dreams are a great reminder to call your mother!

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By Patti Allen| May 12, 2009
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